You must have come across, just like me, a question like: Can a marriage really last forever? And is it really possible?
Absolutely yes, a marriage can last forever if the man and woman are devoted and one of the contributors on quora.com Quasain Raza Akram has the same believe.
In his post where he shared a photo of a couple who have been married for 52 years, says “Yes, any relationship can last forever, if the people involved are devoted . According to me, Marriage is a beautiful relationship which can last forever. they are married for 52 years. They both still have love and care for each other.”
You must have come across 90-year old couple or more canoodling each other. In this kind of situation, one may be wondering how they’re able to remain loving to each other.
In this post we’ll share with you 10 secrets of healthy marriage that will make your relationship last forever.
The tips below were first published on a Marriage Chat, a Facebook Group, that focuses on sharing experiences on marriage and how to make marriage work.
Top 12 secrets that make marriage last forever
- Realistic Expectations
- Work on Thoughtfulness everyday:
- Turn Negatives into Positives:
- An Emphasis on Communication
- Lend Support during the Good and Bad time
- Love and Respect each other as Individuals
- Be Loyal and Devoted
- Live with Integrity
- Appreciate and help each other Grow
- Spend quality time together
- Settle disputes peacefully
Real marriage aren’t what you see in the movies. They happen because each person values the other and are willing to make an investment of time into the partnership.
They understand, not all days are passionate and romantic.. rough spots will require good communication.
Work on Thoughtfulness everyday:
People who are in successful marriage nourish their partnerships regularly. They don’t set their life on cruise control. Ask yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner’s life better?” Little bits of effort every day will accumulate over time and make a big difference.
Turn Negatives into Positives:
Problems in a marriage can be broken down into numbers. If you’re both honest with each other and within yourselves, logically look at the negatives and calmly list them out.Work together as a team to tackle each negative one by one.
An Emphasis on Communication and Listening:
No one is a mind-reader so your partner won’t be able to figure out how you’re feeling.
Be specific and clear with yourself on what you want and make an effort to discover what your partner’s needs are.
Every marriage is Different, Don’t compare your marriage to anyone else’s, especially that random couple whose marriage seems perfect.
Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements and love habits. Just focus on your own too and make your marriage the best it can be!
Lend Support during the Good and Bad time:
Be there through the good, bad, happy, and sad time too. Trust that you can count on each other, and be available not only when it’s convenient, but when it’s needed most.
Love and Respect each other as Individuals:
Our first and last love is self-love. Don’t rely on your significant other, or anyone else, for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to either.
Be Loyal and Devoted:
True love and real marriage aren’t about being inseparable. Love is about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to marriage remaining faithful is never an option but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
Live with Integrity:
Trust in each other and know you haven’t been used or taken advantage of, it creates inner peace and security.
Lies fester, but the truth heals or prevents trouble. Live daily with fairness, integrity and reliability.
Appreciate and help each other Grow:
Having an open appreciation for your significant other leads to a productive, fulfilling and peaceful union.
Cheers for their victories. Celebrate their accomplishments and encourage their goals and ambitions! Challenge them to be the best they can be.
Spend quality time together:
Make time for each other. With busy schedules we often forget to relax and enjoy others.
Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. ignoring someone, often hurts more than angry words! Carve out special time for just the two of you once a week.
Settle disputes peacefully:
When you feel anger, avoid saying or yelling words you can’t take back, instead have a planned agreement that you each will back away.
Source: Marriage Chat (Facebook Group)